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Two bereaved brothers pursuing

the path of reconciliation

‘Revenge brings only more revenge, blood brings more blood’
– Arab Aramin


‘If we who lost our loved ones can work together, anyone can’
– YIgal Elhanan

Arab Aramin (on the left in the photo) was born in Jerusalem. He is 21. In 2007, his sister Abir was shot by an Israeli soldier outside her East Jerusalem school.

PC-FF member Arab says: ‘Abir was killed for no reason. Or maybe there was a reason. Abir was a Palestinian. After Abir got killed, I tried to avenge her death. I was throwing stones at soldiers who stood at the checkpoint outside my house. After a while my father discovered I was throwing stones. My father, a peace activist himself, told me that revenge brings only more revenge, blood brings more blood and that he is not ready to lose another child.’

Yigal Elhanan, an Israeli member of PC-FF, also lost a sister. He says: ‘In September 1997, my sister Smadar was killed in a suicide bombing as she shopped for school books with her classmates. My family joined the Bereaved Families Forum two years later and has been active ever since. The Forum’s goal is to begin the process of reconciliation. Our organisation’s existence is proof that if we, those who lost our most precious loved ones, can work together – anyone can.’

Watch Arab and Yigal speaking for themselves on YouTube

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'We don't want you here'

box of graves

On International Women’s Day in March, bereaved Palestinian and Israeli women came together in Tel Aviv’s Cinematheque Plaza to call for a change that will bring about a solution to the conflict.

The audience – hundreds of Israelis and Palestinians – were invited to look at a dramatic monument to future victims of the conflict, an installation designed for the Bereaved Families Forum by artist Gili Godiano. Through peepholes in the installation, the viewer looks into a room. There they see a tombstone, reflected many times over by mirrors and creating the vision of a cemetery. The message of past victims is spelled out for the viewer in Hebrew, Arabic and English: “We don’t want you here.”

The installation echoes the message of the Bereaved Families Forum: let’s prevent further bloodshed on both sides.

Michal Pundak Sagi, who lost her brother in the Yom Kippur War, told the audience: “On this day we, Palestinian and Israeli women, must stand together to remember and remind people about the heavy and terrible price we all pay. We must do our utmost to make a difference and bring hope for a better future, based on justice, respect, compassion and friendship.

“Violence and bloodshed are an option only when we are silent, when women don’t make a stand… We have to demand from our leaders, as well as ourselves, to speak out and refuse to engage in the violence that rages in our region.”

Aisha Aktam from Nablus, who lost her brother Mahmoud Al-Khatib in 1999, said: “After I lost my brother, I saw the pain of my mother; she asked me to do whatever I can to protect my children, her grandchildren. My voice is the voice of all mothers. We must assume responsibility for the future of our children. Help us. Give us a chance, let us keep our children. We don’t want them to grow up hating, thinking that weapons are the solution. There is another solution called dialogue and a recognition of the other’s rights."

Pairs of bereaved Israeli and Palestinian women, mothers, sisters, wives and daughters, took to the stage to tell their personal stories of bereavement. The women, campaigners for reconciliation and an end to the conflict, called on Israeli President Reuven Rivlin and Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas to bring about a resumption of peace talks and an end to the conflict.

The Bereaved Families Forum continues to stage weekly events promoting peace and reconciliation in the square. Keep up to date with the Forum’s activities at and on its Facebook page:

Sharon Kalimi Misheiker
a Forum member who lost her brother in the conflict

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